Fat Dad Update #1

It has been a few weeks since I wrote “I am too Fat to Play With my Kids”.  My wife and I have been ramping up to a better eating and healthier lifestyle.  We both have done some moderate exercise but it really hasn’t amounted to very much for my weight loss.

Our church has started this book called The Daniel Plan.  We bought the book last week and my wife purchased all the foods needed for the first 10 days of the plan which essentially is a detoxing.   We started it on Sunday, March 16, 2014.  To be honest the food has been very healthy but not the tastiest.  It’s quite a bit of work to prepare these meals and my wife has been a rock star making sure [easyazon_image add_to_cart=”default” align=”left” asin=”0310344298″ cloaking=”default” height=”160″ localization=”default” locale=”US” nofollow=”default” new_window=”yes” src=”http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41pSLPuw0ZL._SL160_.jpg” tag=”priinvadvhq-20″ width=”105″]the meals are ready for the both of us each day.  To be honest, if it wasn’t for my wife I would be struggling with making meals (the consistency of making them).

I have lost roughly 6 pounds in 3 days as I weighed about 268 pounds on Saturday, March 15, 2013 and weighed in at 262 today.  I haven’t exercised very much over the past week as I am recovering from a cold but I anticipate walking on the treadmill everyday going forward.

Struggles for the Fat Dad

I like to munch on food late at night.  The wife caught me midnight snacking last night.  I was in the kitchen and the wife was in bed.

Wife: What are you eating Andrew?

Me: (in a song voice) Go to sleep, go to sleep

Wife: You need to stop eating so late

Me: I don’t know what you are talking about.  Everything I have eaten is healthy (and it was)

Wife: So far I can tell (through the noise mind you) you have eaten celery with hummus and string cheese. What else did you eat? (By the way, she nailed it)

Me: (laughing and drinking a protein drink) Don’t worry about it wife.  I am way under 2000 calories for the day.

Wife: (irritated)

gun showIt’s tough because I get a lot of work done on my blog, podcast and videos at night when everyone is in bed sleeping.  There are no distractions typically during that time of the day.  The later I am up however the hungrier I become.

So far my focus is basically to eat whatever the wife tells me to eat on the Daniel Plan.  My wife, sister in law and brother in law are also giving this journey a try.  It will be very cool to show my tummy fat to a tummy flat.  Oh, and wrestling season started again.  Flirting with the idea of training again.  Just flirting with it.



#48: Is Taking Too Many Family Pictures a Bad Thing?

We live in a great age where thousands of photos can be stored on one memory card.  We are no longer limited to a roll of film or the amount of pictures available on a disposable camera.  We don’t miss a moment of anything as parents.  Video cameras and photography cameras have become smaller and offer better picture quality. Then you have more professional cameras which have become less expensive.  Just walk through an amusement park like Disneyland and count how many families are using a DSLR camera to document their time together at the park.  You will lose count I assure you.

Storing Pictures

Storing pictures isn’t like it use to be.  We don’t have to have boxes of photos or huge photo books.  We store our pictures on social media, external hard drives, CD/DVD’s and on our computers which doesn’t take up any space in our homes.

 It’s quite amazing where technology has brought us thus far.  So what is the problem?

Overprotective ParentsI have noticed something happening in my own life and I know I am not the only Dad or parent that is going through this.  I purchased my first digital camera 9 years ago after my daughter was born because it was important to me to capture those early moments as much as possible.   I am the photographer of the family and I enjoy it very much.  I am the one carrying the camera and video camera.  I do my best to capture every moment I can when it comes to birthdays or family adventures (sledding, time at the park, amusement parks etc..). There have been times where I have had a camera in one had (shooting pictures) and a video camera in the other hand.  It wasn’t  pretty but I captured the moments happening.  I have like 30 or 40 memory cards filled with memories over the past 9 years.

What’s worse is now with social media (Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc..) I find myself taking pictures of moments just to share them on social media.  Yet another reason I end up taking pictures.

The main reason I am capturing these moments is to hopefully share them again with family when my son and daughter are older and have their own families.  And then they will have children and I can share those moments and the stories that go along with each picture or video.  I am very nostalgic for some reason.

You’re Missing out Dad

I am missing out on the experience that I am documenting.  I am so overly concerned about documenting everyone else’s experience in one particular moment that I don’t really get to enjoy it as much as I could or should.

Now I am Conscious of It

What I am doing different now is keeping the big camera and the video camera in the car during our excursions.  We recently went sledding and the only camera I took with me on the slopes was my phone. I videotaped and took photos intermittently for 10 to 15 minutes and then spent more time focusing on the moment then documenting the moment.

Don’t get me wrong, I still want to document the fun stuff my family and I do, but I don’t want my focus to just be on documenting it.

My Advice (Because You Know I Want to Give it)

I am all about spending time with the family.  But if you are not in the moment with your family then are you really spending time with them?  Take some pictures, put down the camera and just enjoy it.  That is what I am going to try to do going forward.

Dad Makes a Parody Song of “Let it Go”- Oh and he is a Traffic Reporter

This dad takes things to a whole new level when he changes the lyrics to “Let it Go” from Disney’s movie Frozen to a traffic reporter’s song.  He did an amazing job with the parody even though his coworkers gave him a hard time.

#47: I am too Fat to Play With My Kids

Ya know it wasn’t but about 12 years ago I was a specimen of strength and manliness.  I worked out frequently, I could run 2 miles in 15 minutes  and I could bench press over 250 pounds.    There wasn’t very much I couldn’t do at 25 years of age.  With that being said, during that time I was single and  I was fresh out of the Army.  The only thing I really had to worry about was myself  and the woman I was dating who eventually became my wife.

wedding day 2

Wedding Day 2003

As time progressed over the years I became less active.  I put much less importance on my health and appearance.  I placed much more focus on my family, working hard to support my family and what ever time was left was to be spent with my family.

The jobs I have had over the past 12 years didn’t help with my health.  The majority of my employment over the last decade has been as a private investigator. There have been countless hours of surveillance and sitting in my vehicle and countless hours of travel around the states I have worked in.  Over time I have added over 60 pounds to my manly physique.

So where am I now?

Thanksgving 2013

Thanksgiving 2013

I can’t run for long distances or chase my children around like I should be able to do.  I had difficulties in teaching my kids wrestling moves because my body won’t do what my mind tells it to do (without pain).

Even though my wife and children accept me and love me regardless of my appearance  I am letting them down.  My excessive weight will likely give me health problems in the near future and a shorter life expectancy.

It’s tough to share but I am around 265 pounds at the moment.  I am about 100 pounds more than I weighed at 21 years of age.  This is not the life I want to live.

Where do I need to be?

I think to be healthier I need to be between 210 – 220 pounds.  I need to be at that weight to be more  attractive for my wife and more active for my children.  I want to grow old and see my children grow up, get married and have children. I want to be around to be a grandfather to my grandchildren.   And of course I want to grow old with my wife so we can enjoy our children, grandchildren and vacation together.

This year, 2014 is the year that I get down to an appropriate weight, a healthier weight so I can be the better father and husband I need to be.

Is anyone else looking to change their weight this year?  Let me know if you are.  I would love know what you are doing to make it happen this year.


Father Videotapes Kids Slipping on Ice – Parenting Fail

Thank goodness for friends searching for hilarious content on the internet and sharing it on Facebook.  A father waiting to pick up his child from school begins videotaping kids slipping on ice over and over again.  One fall after another keeps happening and all the father can do is laugh and comment on each slip and fall. 

Slpping on ice

His daughter eventually gets to the car and enjoys the kids as the slip and fall repeatedly.  I will be honest; I don’t think I would have let it continue out of worrying that someone would get hurt.  Not this father however.  He rolls the dice and videotapes as it all goes down.  What would you have done?